Unfortunately, we did not feel safe being women in Sri Lanka let alone being queer women.
People stared at us A LOT! We’re used to staring, but this staring was excessive and uncomfortable.
We got harassed and followed by men on a daily basis.
We were constantly being whistled at, catcalled, and honked at.
Men liked to play with their d*cks in front of us. Unfortunately, this happened more than once.
Homosexuality is illegal in Sri Lanka.
Must I say more? It is really sad and unfortunate that such a beautiful country is filled with so many rotten men who constantly harass women. Sure, we met friendly men, but it didn’t make up for the amount of times that we felt scared, threatened, and attacked. We did everything in our power to avoid the unwanted attention, but undoubtably, the harassment persisted. We only wore long trousers, covered our shoulders, and dressed conservatively. We avoided going to non-tourist places, we went home before it got dark, we didn’t drink alcohol, and even avoided making eye contact. We did everything right, but we still felt unsafe a lot of the time.
This being said, Sri Lanka is a beautiful country. The nature in Sri Lanka is probably some of the most beautiful nature we have ever experienced, but it is definitely not a queer friendly place for women. I cannot say what it’s like for queer men, but I assume it’s probably best to stay in the closet while visiting the country.
All in all, I’d say visit Sri Lanka, but bring a friend, preferably a male friend or two or ten so you feel safer. I’d also suggest telling people that you’re married (to a man). We said we were married a few times and it definitely helped scare off creeps.